April 17, 2019
How rope play allowed me to release my shame about sex
I didn’t know what to expect when I walked up to the house in Agoura Hills, California, where I would be staying for the weekend. Well, I knew that I would be getting suspended with ropes, in a practice known as shibari or erotic rope bondage. I knew I’d be working through my shame around sex. But still, the weekend felt like uncharted territory, and I was the explorer discovering it.
When I found out Alexandra Roxo, transformational mentor and filmmaker, and Blue, a shibari teacher, performer, and founder of Vox Body Studio, were leading a retreat around shibari and sexual healing, I knew I had to be there. Not only had I been itching to try shibari and explore that kink, but, like almost every other person on the planet raised in a patriarchal society, I also …