Benefits of Sexual Meditation — Everything You Need to Know
February 1, 2020
What Is Sexual Meditation and What Are the Benefits?
Surely you’ve heard that meditation can better your life. It can make you more relaxed and at peace. Who doesn’t need that in today’s fast-paced world, right?
However, if you’ve never thought about the meditation practice in-depth, then it might be surprising to hear that it can offer you more than just some peace of mind. Sure, it brings numerous mental health benefits, and it can even improve your physical health. But did you know that it can also improve your sex life?
It’s mind-blowing, we know, but it’s true! Some of the many benefits of meditation are improved sexual desire, prowess, and ability.
So as a concept, it sounds weird, right? Meditation for sex is undoubtedly a made-up thing, right?! Don’t be so quick to dismiss it. Wait until you’ve heard about the benefits.
What Is Sexual Meditation?
Not many people would make a cause-and-effect connection between sex and meditation. Although sexual meditation isn’t a scientific term, many experts have started advocating it.
Sexual meditation doesn’t have to be necessarily about sex or sexual ability. As a concept, it stems from the belief that meditation can make us more mindful and present in the moment. Thus, we are more intuned with ourselves and our surroundings, as well as people around us.
Because it isn’t something that only happens during meditation, people also practice mindfulness during sex, which makes them better lovers, increases intimacy, and improves their sex lives.
Recently, two studies showed that there is, in fact, a link between sex and meditation. Better said, they proved that people who make meditation a part of their daily routine have better sex. Why? Because sexual arousal comes more naturally to them. Furthermore, they also tend to want sex more frequently and are, apparently, better at it than others.
Aside from that, the studies also showed that mindfulness people achieve during meditation affects their self-esteem and general sexual satisfaction.
So, to put it plainly, people who meditate are more mindful, quicker to get aroused, achieve intimacy more quickly than others, and simply have better sex.
But is that all? Are there any other benefits to meditation? How does meditation exactly improve our sex lives?
It Reduces Stress
Stress is a massive part of our daily lives. External stressors are ever-present, and they affect us whether we want them to or not. Meditation can help us deal with that.
Meditation makes us more relaxed and tranquil. When we’re stressed, our sex drives diminish. If we’re under a massive amount of stress, our libidos are most likely nonexistent. So, meditating, which leads to relaxing, can help us with that.
However, there’s more to it than that. Sex generally tends to be stressful. We worry about our abilities, bodies, whether we’re doing something wrong, whether our partners are genuinely enjoying it (or just faking it), etc. These anxious thoughts trigger our body’s stress hormones, making it harder for us to get aroused.
And we all know what that means, right? Yes, that’s right — it means there will be no sex!
Mindfulness is the natural antidote to stress. By meditating, we activate our parasympathetic nervous system. That is a vital part of the brain that works in tandem with our sympathetic nervous system, which is the head honcho that regulates the production of stress hormones.
So, mindfulness meditation can help us regulate our stress response, thus improving our sex life.
Which Leads to Better Orgasms
Because meditation reduces stress hormones (adrenaline and cortisol), it leaves room for other, more sex-friendly hormones, like dopamine and serotonin. These are also known as bliss hormones or happy chemicals, and they spike after meditation. Because we’re feeling so blissful, we’re more likely to become aroused.
The more aroused and enthusiastic about sex we are, the stronger our orgasms will be. It’s simple science.
It Increases the Sex Drive
Although low sex drive can be a result of medical conditions, it’s often a direct consequence of our emotional state. We mentioned this before, but it bears repeating — if we’re stressed, anxious, or burdened with emotional turmoil in any way, our libidos will plummet.
It’s completely normal that, during a stressful week full of obligations we can’t dodge, boring meetings, and panic-inducing deadlines, we don’t have much time to think about sex. What’s more, even when it does cross our minds, it does so in a negative manner. It’s one more thing to think about or cross on the to-do list.
That’s no way to live a healthy life. By practicing meditation, we can lower our stress levels and get in touch with ourselves. That, in turn, can affect how often we have the desire to have sex.
By practicing mindfulness, we also practice shifting our focus. We learn to let go of external stimuli (which are more often than not stressors) and focus on the moment. Being able to stay in the moment and focus on your partner is vital for good sex.
A 2014 study found that mindful meditation improves sex drives in women of all ages. Women are more likely to be stressed out during sex because they are worried about their bodies and abilities. Thanks to meditation, women can enjoy the moment without judgment (from themselves), which improves their sexual functioning.
Consequently, because we’re so focused on our partner, we’re effectively increasing the intimacy of the moment. Sex isn’t always a tender, sensual exchange of energy. Sometimes it’s a quick and dirty deed.
Of course, that’s perfectly fine. However, if it becomes a routine rather than an isolated event, it can diminish the bond you have with your partner. By meditating and practicing mindfulness, you can learn to focus on your partner and increase the intimacy of every sexual encounter you have (no matter how short it may be). Thanks to that, you’ll have a stronger connection to them.
How to Practice Sexual Meditation
Sexual meditation doesn’t have to take over your entire routine to be successful. However, you do need to carve out some time during the day to practice mindfulness.
Start by taking a few minutes to focus on your breathing. Try to stay in the moment and not let your mind wander.
After that, introduce this practice into the bedroom. It can be another activity that will bring you closer to your partner. When you meditate together, try to keep eye-contact and focus on each other. That will help with intimacy and the feeling of connectedness.
Finally, try practicing mindfulness and staying in the moment during sex. Focus on the sensations you’re experiencing in that very moment (don’t think about other things). If you feel your mind starting to wander, gaze into your partner’s eyes and let them guide you back where you need to be.
Once you get the hang of it, you’ll notice how daily meditation is affecting your sex life. If you don’t believe us, try it out for yourself. If nothing else, at least you’ll have a few moments in the day when you focus on nothing else but yourself and your partner. When was the last time you did that?