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Sex therapy: What you should know

December 4, 2020

The world we live in is full of potentially stressful and anxiety-driven situations. It’s like we’re on the constant lookout for trouble, be it personal or professional. Add to that a global pandemic, and you’ve got yourself a recipe for disaster. Unfortunately, all this pressure seems to creep up on us even in places where we feel the safest — our bedrooms.

It’s not uncommon to hear stories about marriages and relationships breaking down due to a lack of quality sex. Both men and women tend to reflect their issues and insecurities onto their private life, leading to subpar intercourse. But is there a way to maintain your sexual health during all this mayhem? Well, there’s psychosexual therapy, and here’s how it works.

What is sex therapy?

Meant to help both individuals and couples with their private, medical, interpersonal, and psychological problems, sex therapy is a special form of psychotherapy. Its main focuses are satisfaction and the sexual issues that surround it. This sort of therapy aims to provide you with solutions to physical and mental challenges that may affect your private life. In the end, it looks to rejuvenate your sex life and help you find joy and pleasure in it.

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These days, sex therapy uses both psychotherapeutic and medical techniques. Hence, you shouldn’t be surprised if your therapist gives you or your male partner Viagra or some other meds to enhance your sexual performance. They can even suggest using sex toys. Either way, the goal is to overcome all problems and live a healthy life. And when that comes into play, you shouldn’t worry about tactics or your ego if you want to make a difference.

Both psychologists and physicians can provide you psychosexual therapy. Of course, they need licenses that guarantee their previous training. The overseeing institution for this form of therapy is the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. And although not the same as sex surrogacy, therapists and surrogates can work together in some cases.

It helps with sexual dysfunction

Unfortunately, these problems affect lots of people. Some studies suggest that more than 43% of women and 31% of men suffer from sexual dysfunction. Others say that these numbers are going up with each passing year, and that the current state of the world is only adding to these statistics. Then again, is there any aspect of human life that doesn’t care about the coronavirus pandemic? Well, we don’t think so.

Their issues may include one or more of the following dysfunctions:

  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Low libido
  • Lack of interest
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Low confidence
  • Lack of response to sexual stimulus
  • Inability to reach orgasm
  • Excessive libido
  • Uncomfortable sexual behavior
  • Distressing thoughts
  • Unwanted sexual fetishes

The goal you want to reach with psychosexual therapy is natural and healthy sex life. After all, the thing that makes us human is the need for emotional and physical intimacy. And if you suffer from sexual dysfunction, you will find that it gets hard to experience both forms of intimacy. Therapy might be your only chance of living a normal and healthy private life.

How does sex therapy work?

Like any other form of therapy, the sex one treats your condition by allowing you to share experiences, doubts, and feelings with your doctor. Only then can they suggest ways of turning things around. Of course, the process can be lengthy and can last for several years. It all depends on your state and ability to share and invest yourself into the process.

Sessions may vary, meaning that you’ll either talk with the doctor alone or with your partner present. The same goes for them. Hence, you shouldn’t expect the therapist to take your side because they’re not there to referee your relationship. They’re only there to guide you through the process and help you go on whenever you feel like there’s no use.

It’s also important to state that there will be no sexual intercourse present at their office, nor will the therapist/doctor participate in any. It’s not porn. Each new session will take things further, upping the level of acceptance that there’s something wrong with your sex life. Nevertheless, it’s a supportive process, and you should keep that in mind at all times.

Furthermore, you’ll likely leave the therapist’s office with some sort of homework. Assignments that you’ll need to work on and talk about the next time you go visit your doc. And if they begin to suspect there’s something wrong with you physically, they’ll bring in the medication or even adult toys. You know, from Viagra to dildos and all that stuff. They can even throw in a couple of new sex ideas for the two of you to try out.

Do i need sex therapy?

This is a pretty hard question to answer. The reason is that only you can know how you feel about your private life. Therefore, you should consider whether your potential sexual dysfunction is affecting other aspects of your life. How do you feel about sex with your partner, and are they showing signs of unwillingness to be intimate with you?

So, in case your emotional state and mental health are slipping because of lackluster sex, we’d say that you should try therapy. You can’t go wrong with it since the therapist will quickly see whether you should even be there in the first place. Still, we’d always suggest that you openly talk about it with your partner beforehand. After all, sharing and communicating is the basis of every happy and healthy relationship in the world. You’re in this together.